December 29, 2018

In this digital age, it is impossible to avoid the messages of tragedy being broadcast every day. Tragedy related to weather, terrorism, violence, and more reinforce broad (and often misunderstood) concepts of Mental Illness. It is easy to believe that we’re either sev...

January 12, 2018

What better time than a new year to talk about problems?! Sure, it's not the most comfortable topic for most. But, I'm on a one-woman mission to change that.

More specifically, it's important to note that we ALL have problems--some more than others, for sure. But, you c...

December 18, 2017

Have you ever gotten so familiar with someone that you can read your partner's mood in a split-second? Turns out, there's actual science behind that.

According to the latest research, it only takes about 2/100 of a second for us to register facial expressions and judge...

November 30, 2017

When clients come to me in distress about their relationships (which is nearly universal, whether I'm doing individual or couples therapy), one of my first "go-to" conversations is about his/her "sphere of influence."

By that, I mean this: Who influences you? Who do you...

November 21, 2017

I've written a lot about happiness in the past - how to find it, how to keep it, and who has the most of it. But, I've rarely written about the happiness "breakdown." Until now.

When I'm feeling down and wondering "why" my life circumstances are happening as they are, I...

November 10, 2017

I have to laugh at some of the new proposed laws popping up around the country - in one state, lawmakers are trying to outlaw swings at playgrounds because they're dangerous. In another, children were nearly banned without an adult because they could fall down stairs....

October 31, 2017

If you took Psychology 101 in college, you likely heard about an experiment in which a researcher studied baby monkeys--would they choose to be with a wire "mother" who gave them food and water or a cloth "mother" who gave them comfort?

What they found is that, despite...

October 23, 2017

Resiliency is one of the most popular "buzz words" in today's psychological discourse, and there's no doubt why: We're finding that resilient children make resilient adults -- and resilient adults can cope better with life's disappointments (which, lets's face it, are...

October 14, 2017

I may not have a ton of single friends, but, as a therapist is Honolulu, I DO have several single clients - and, most (if not all) are looking for love. Real love. Lasting love. Powerful love.

For many, love is the pinnacle of the human experience - and, indeed, it's at...